What do you do when you find yourself in a environment of chaos and anger? You desire love and care and only get it in minor moments and then heavy moments of rage from a partner from a family member.
Some times you have to get through those moments. You can’t run away. What do you do when you are striving for a peaceful voice in the void.
Close your eyes and open your mouth or speak with in yourself and be that voice.
You don’t need a hero with a cap to come to the rescue. You are that voice. You have to choose though. You have to actively choose to love yourself and rescue yourself.
We are who we are from the series of choices we make to the outlook we choose to have in life and the gifts and talents we are innately born with.
Aggression. Can be a powerful tool in your life to help push you to your limits and others to do and become their best version. It can also be a force of destruction in your life and on others. It’s your choice.
There is nothing wrong with being aggressive if it is your nature. You have to choose how you use your nature in your life, form yourself, or destroy yourself. Know yourself and use your nature to craft your own path and craft your body and mind to your advantage in life. Whether in business, you can use aggression to pursue the deal or the big sale or martial arts and boxing to push yourself and skill for next round or big overall win.
Meditation:
This is who I am. I accept my nature. I will use it to my advantage. I will use it, push myself forward, and create harmony with me and for the benefit of the people I love.
In simple terms: Your behavior or the activities you do mirror back who you are and a pattern for how you think. Some behaviors patterns can be changed others are fixed. The deciding factor is you.
Examples:
Loud corny behavior
This beta bitch behavior pattern is seen in the leather, the fedora and the words that vibrate with arrogence, self importance and self delusion. He really does think people give a shit about I’m a cool asshole delusion. All he is a fucking beta bitch sniffing on his shitty philosophy or masturbating to his own intelligence. Is this fixable?! Maybe. He just has to have a come to Jesus moment where he realizes nobody gives a fuck what he thinks.
Some dudes don’t give a fuck. Other men choose what to give a fuck about and damn everything else. Confidence is knowing who you are and not giving a fuck if nobody else cares about it because they don’t. This is behavior that is expressed outwardly from inward self knowledge. Learned behavior.
At peace in his own world. Confident in his own skin. In the flow state my dude.
Habits breed behaviors and personality patterns mirror self indentity. Learn your strengths check your habits and limit your own bullshit from getting in the way of you winning in life.
Be a dedicated worker. You can build on your wealth early and alot sooner now.
Earning money: Start earning money early with your physical labor or selling shit off Amazon or eBay or become a remote customer service representative.
Money management: Spend 75 percent, invest 15 percent save 10 percent. Use a calculator or excel spread sheet to calculate how long it would take you to build resources to accomplish your goal. Research roth IRA and other retirement accounts.
Life is a series of goals you make one after the other at this point until you reach your end. This all advice from a life coach that has tried a lot of this shit.
Destiny is what you do from here to the grave. It’s a means to building a life. There is a profession and there is a purpose and meaning for things you do to achieve meaningful goals to you.
Or
It can be boring 9 to 5 for the rest of your life to pay for your apartment and family.
It’s choices. You have a choice or choices on what you will do with your natural and learned skills. What you will do and can do will end up being your destiny.
A subjective destiny to me is working at McDonald’s. You have dreams of making it big on YouTube with 9 subscribers no niche with a dream of retiring at thirty and spending the rest of your life banging hockers and riding motorcycles.
Alright now that you’ve listened to your people and your own thoughts. Reality check your assumptions.
Are your assumptions about yourself provable by events and situations that happened in the past. Can you give a statistical analysis that you behave and are the way you are given current situations that repeat themselves in reality?
Are you a bad ass? If the answer is yes then you should have deta to back up your point of view of reality.
Example. If a dumbass rolls up on you and slaps the piss out of you do you respond by a reverse kick to his balls or do you piss yourself and cry?
The shit happens in life. In whatever form how you respond is the answer to whether or not your pussy or accurate definite bad ass.
Why is this important?
Lying to yourself about your own self image or perception is operating under bad detail. If you want to succeed in life then you should operate by strengths you can be sure are accurate and you can stand on to help you secure your goals in life. Listen to information regarding people telling you how you are but check that shit with past experience to see if it’s facts or some bullshit to puff you up or put you down.
In short: Listen to people that know who you are because often times you’ll catch hints of when they’re talking bullshit. Listen to gut, your thoughts and what you want to do.
When your having a conversation about your life, your needs and your desires please listen to yourself when you talk. Your telling on yourself. What motivates you. What heightens your interests and makes you hyper awhere or happy. You already know your just not listening to yourself.
Listen to people that have your best interest at heart. Listen and pay attention to what they’re saying about you. It matters so don’t just listen to respond. Be present and listen for opportunities to grow, learn and consently be on the search to move forward.
If you want to be successful in life listen to someone successful in life.
Conversations in general are golden opportunities for you to mine out relationships and information to help you be successful in the game of life.
Your people, your tribe are real and honest people that don’t want to soft ball you the truth about how you are fucking up your life.
No I’m not joking. People ignore shit easy. People don’t listen when they get up in their feelings and recognize when someone has given them the truth about how it is.
In short: positive psychology/philosophy and behavioral science mixed with tools to get you into (being) and (doing) and (having) what the fuck you want. Life Coaching is a progressive plan of execution to win.
The benefits of coaching are more into the training and tools that can be used to utilize in helping yourself achieve your goals. That’s the end result. How can you achieve succeeding in your goal and winning in life.
The formal answer: Be accountable to yourself and the decisions you make. Engineer your life concisely. Play for the win in life.
The informal answer: Stop fucking around and start setting your life in order to do what you know you want to do. Be honest with yourself.. what fucking excuses are you giving yourself because your either afraid or to lazy to plan and execute your own success?
What’s the big confusion?
Well…there is no real confusion only grifters and bullshit artists trying to put the game on you for some…
And no results. No forward progress. No plan of execution, no plan for success to win in the game. When your dealing with a non professional.
The mindset: The game of life is a long one, winning is the objective. Whatever goal your set on achieving it is through your own fault or effort that help you succeed for the win or fail.
You are the engineer of your own life. You understand and design it in a way to go where you want it. You can go along with the social society engineering or take control and concisely decide for yourself what the ride is going to be like. We already know the ending.
